Blog on Swinging, Open Relationships & Polyamory

Strength In Transformation

August 3, 2018 | by Kat Stark | Blog

You can hide under some stuff to protect yourself from a storm but you can't live there. To do so is to stop living.

TAGS: angst, anxiety, breakups, feels, growing pains, impermanence, insecurity, learning curve, non-monogamy, poly, queer, rejection, relationships, sex, vulnerability

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It was strange after having several years of super-sexy discovery and exploration to slip into a mode where the sexual piece of me that I’d considered so foundational to my identity was nearly entirely shut off.

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Podcast Episode 23: Dating During Upheaval

July 6, 2018 | with "Serious" Flick Morrison & Kat Stark | Podcasts

In non-monogamy, we often have concurrent partners and heartbreak and it can be really tough to figure out how to grieve a relationship while maintaining or building another.

TAGS: Flick, angst, anxiety, avoidant, bisexual, breakups, communication, dating, empathy, feels, impermanence, insecurity, non-monogamy, open relationship, podcast, poly, polyamory, queer, relationships, sex, sexuality, stress, swinging, vulnerability

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Podcast Episode 21: SCIENCE!

April 17, 2018 | with "Serious" Flick Morrison & Kat Stark | Podcasts

Author and researcher of sociology and anthropology Brenda Wiebe has written Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack my Love Life, a review of different relationship patterns throughout human history in combination with her own intimate journal entries.

TAGS: Life on the Swingset, attachment, autonomy, breakups, communication, dating, feels, growing pains, impermanence, learning curve, non-monogamy, open relationship, origin story, podcast, poly, polyamory, relationships, sex, vulnerability

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The More The Merrier (Until It's Not)

December 1, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

You may find yourself liking and/or loving those things too, metamours turn into paramours, and you may settle into some polyam smugness about how great you are all are at this non-monogamy thing.

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When Love Gets in the Way

July 13, 2017 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I have been guilty of hanging onto things for far too long that weren't good for me or the other person because I loved them. We weren't in the same place mentally and emotionally.

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Podcast Episode 12: Impermanence, Breakups, and Relationship Transitions

July 1, 2017 | with "Serious" Flick Morrison & Kat Stark | Podcasts

Not every relationship lasts forever--Whaaa?--turns out that happily ever after was kind of a fraudulent bill of goods we were sold as kids watching Disney movies. Relationships end or sometimes transition into subtly or entirely different forms.

TAGS: Flick, Iris, Kat, angst, anxiety, autonomy, bisexual, boundaries, breakups, dating, empathy, expectations, feels, growing pains, impermanence, intimacy, needs, non-monogamy, podcast, polyamory, rejection, relationships, sex, sexuality, stress, vulnerability

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Everything Must Change

December 20, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

Sometimes a relationship doesn't work the way you think it will. Sometimes you go into something expecting it to look and feel a certain way, travel a certain path, and as you go, it turns out that is not what you (or the other person(s)) wanted after all.