When Life Gets Small
The more we learn about their lives and their partners and connections, the bigger our lives begin to feel. We feel part of a larger whole and it can fill us with a sense of comfort and belonging.
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Reclaiming My Inner Slut
It was strange after having several years of super-sexy discovery and exploration to slip into a mode where the sexual piece of me that I’d considered so foundational to my identity was nearly entirely shut off.
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The Romantic Woes of a Reasonable Person
I am eminently reasonable. In theory, it’s a great quality to have. I’m able to see and understand all the different sides of arguments and generally try really hard to make sure everyone is happy.
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Podcast Episode 19: Building Your Ideal Relationship
Turns out, when you shed the societal expectations of what relationships are meant to look like, you can pick & choose what elements work best for you.
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It's not a competition.
At the same time, I feel an immediate sense of loss because I know that they're not going to be as available to me. Then I feel guilty for being selfish and clingy.
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The More The Merrier (Until It's Not)
You may find yourself liking and/or loving those things too, metamours turn into paramours, and you may settle into some polyam smugness about how great you are all are at this non-monogamy thing.
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Podcast Episode 12: Impermanence, Breakups, and Relationship Transitions
Not every relationship lasts forever--Whaaa?--turns out that happily ever after was kind of a fraudulent bill of goods we were sold as kids watching Disney movies. Relationships end or sometimes transition into subtly or entirely different forms.
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Outsider Looking In
What's tricky is that even in a group of people who really get you, have lived similar experiences, have similar outlooks on life, if you're like me, you still don't necessarily feel like you fit in.
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