Kat Stark - Yelling in Pasties

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Twenty years into her marriage, Kat and her husband faced head-on the great underlying fear of most monogamous people: My partner wants to have sex with other people. For them, that truth led to a rollercoaster of new sexual and romantic adventures...

Posts

Let's Get Naked

August 2, 2016 | with Kat Stark | Blog

I have a tendency to always try to be Super-Compersion Poly Barbie™ so when I feel hurt by situations or requests from partners, it is extremely difficult for me to express my 'failure'

TAGS: anxiety, communication, compersion, empathy, feels, growing pains, insecurity, non-monogamy, poly, polyamory, relationships, vulnerability

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Not Jealous?

May 29, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

Curse you, green-eyed monster! I was so smug that I'd beaten you. Turns out you don't go down without a real fight.

TAGS: Desire Resort, Flick, Iris, feels, growing pains, jealousy, learning curve, non-monogamy, open relationship, swinging

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Swinging in the Deep End: Anxiety Strikes Back

May 6, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I felt extraneous and in the way of him finding fun so I pulled way back, and essentially avoided him. It was not the right call for me.

TAGS: Will, anxiety, expectations, feels, growing pains, learning curve, non-monogamy, open relationship, play party, poly, polyamory, sex, stress, travel

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Navigating Three

April 22, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I never expected for us to have a girlfriend. We are absolutely not that couple who opened up in order to find their perfect unicorn and live happily ever after as three.

TAGS: Iris, bisexual, expectations, feels, learning curve, non-monogamy, open relationship, pansexual, poly, polyamory, queer, triad

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Guys are like Ah and Gals are like Oo

March 4, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I find I'm kind of intimidated by them, and my brain goes into this "Pretty! *giggle* Can't. Talk." shutdown mode, and I haven't figured out how to break through.

TAGS: Cooper, Elle, Iris, Kasidie, Raina, bisexual, feels, flirting, learning curve, non-monogamy, online dating, open relationship, pansexual, poly, polyamory, queer, sexting, squirting, threesome, unicorn

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The Cost of the Closet

February 19, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I hadn't thought about what it might be like for someone watching the snapshots of my life shift so dramatically, showing my life was anything but "the usual" I was describing.

TAGS: Flick, anxiety, boundaries, coming out, feels, growing pains, learning curve, love, non-monogamy, open relationship, poly

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Swinging in Paradise Part 3

January 22, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

Some tropical rain shut down the band early, but Will and I took advantage and made out in the rain, enjoying rain-slick skin and lips as others dodged for cover.

TAGS: Desire Resort, Elle, Flick, Life on the Swingset, Raina, Wes, Will, feels, growing pains, jealousy, learning curve, non-monogamy, open relationship, poly, polyamory, swinging

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Epiphany

January 19, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

If someone doesn't want me despite all those truths, it's not because I'm not _____ enough. It is because of his preconceived ideas of what he wants, not any failing on my part.

TAGS: angst, anxiety, expectations, feels, growing pains, non-monogamy, open relationship, relationships

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