Blog on Swinging, Open Relationships & Polyamory

Swinging in the Deep End: Anxiety Strikes Back

May 6, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I felt extraneous and in the way of him finding fun so I pulled way back, and essentially avoided him. It was not the right call for me.

TAGS: Will, anxiety, expectations, feels, growing pains, learning curve, non-monogamy, open relationship, play party, poly, polyamory, sex, stress, travel

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Reconnecting with Sexy Friends

March 25, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I have no issues being a pervert, but I have worries about being denied entry into the US (possibly forever) for being a pervert. "We don't need your maple-scented filth here, ma'am!"

TAGS: Desire Resort, Flick, Hot Mama, Life on the Swingset, Raina, Wes, anxiety, fuckation, non-monogamy, open relationship, poly, polyamory, stress, swinging, travel

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The Stress of Evolution

February 5, 2016 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I get the feeling that maybe I'm supposed to want more than I do, more chat time, more skype time, more date time.

TAGS: FWB, anxiety, expectations, growing pains, learning curve, non-monogamy, open relationship, poly, polyamory, stress

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Admittedly, the people in the shower were people who had already established sexual connections, and so it made complete sense for them to go right to a more advanced level, but it was setting a precedent for those of us watching.

TAGS: Desire Resort, Life on the Swingset, anxiety, boundaries, fuckation, growing pains, learning curve, non-monogamy, open relationship, play party, poly, polyamory, stress, swinging, travel

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Rejection Suxxor

April 2, 2015 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I mean, there were a lot of things that likely wouldn't have made us compatible, but it still sucks to be judged as wanting by a potential partner.

TAGS: anxiety, bisexual, feels, growing pains, insecurity, learning curve, non-monogamy, online dating, open relationship, queer, rejection, stress, vulnerability

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Our First Swinger Date

March 3, 2015 | by Kat Stark | Blog

I was so nervous all the next day. Were they going to like us? Was my undercarriage grooming up to par? Was my undercarriage itself up to par? We should totally cancel.